Dearly beloved, the audience is gathered right here right now to complete this thing also known as⦠a season finale! Yes, it’s genuine, present event signifies the termination of absolutely the blockbuster that was S2 of
Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?
And commemorate that closing, which simpler to think about it and discuss the joys and successes of a lengthy distance crush, than star and queer individual Elise Bauman? You may accept Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer Christmas rom-com which come away just last year,
Within The Xmas Tree
,
but around these parts, she has another concept that is almost as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, that is correct, this gleaming twosome had been birthed from the fantastic queer tradition: the cross country crush.
But what will it be concerning the long distance crush that is very attractive to queers around the globe? Would it be the general scarcity of like-minded queers around you? possibly the capability to flirt long distance takes many pressure down? The three folks go into all of it, AND Drew and Elise show some potentially TOO precious facts about their own connection!
And undoubtedly there is a game! Recently, we make Drew play the video game that simply took over Twitter and Tiktok for some momentary months: “They’re a 10 but⦔ It is a very good time, around!
PROGRAM NOTES
+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Study Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Enjoy
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it still rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are⦠undoubtedly rather persuasive!
+ will most likely Shortz is indeed title of the NYT Crossword Editor!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: right after which we had gotten off the cellphone, immediately after which both of us hopped on telephone two moments later on we’re like, “and so the line is actually shut, we’re legitimately not allowed to really get across the border.”
Christina
: i am talking about, leading among certainly one of my favorite vocals memos and or messages I managed to get from Drew, i cannot recall which kind it came in, it was like, “we made this plan and then the borders are closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been a proper moment.
[theme song plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And I’m Christina.
Drew
: And this is
Wait, So Is This A Night Out Together?
Christina
:
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me personally getting the giggles, and question definitely on every person’s mouth, wait, ended up being this a date?
Drew
: we are at the end of our very own next period, and that I think we solved it, In my opinion.
Christina
: Yeah, I think i am only delivering large finale electricity, like when comedies had previously been facing a facility market, and everyone would walk-in and there ended up being an hour or so of applause given that it had been like, oahu is the final, that is how I’m experiencing. Though are clear, no body has applauded me personally but, hateful. Thank you so much, thanks. Today personally i think loved and used. Drew, who will be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this component.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Perhaps season three we’ll obtain the intros. I am Drew Gregory, I am an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Do you know what, i believe whenever we carry out another season i do want to have a fun one I throw-in at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, one thing spicy, you want to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t such a thing today though.
Christina
: Okay, keep them wishing a lot more, In my opinion which is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: Im Christina Tucker, Im also a writer at Autostraddle, as well as the internet at-large. A podcaster, a on gay black lady, and somebody who’s sensation fairly jazzy the following about afternoon.
Drew
: Great, I’m actually glad that you are flashy and that I’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning for the possibility that someday i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, one half of the movie Dune, the spruce comes. Cool reference, girls, she actually is solitary. Anyhow, i actually do have a game title for all of us to play with this hollowed day’s the finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This Is Actually The traditional, and by traditional I Am Talking About a game that took over the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, “They’re a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: today Drew, I’m going to put down some floor policies for you personally, because I know you like a followup concern.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: While I state they can be a 10, they may be a 10 for you in any way that matters to you, that could be physically, that would be psychologically, this is just people you really feel is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, ok, thanks a lot.
Christina
: i actually do have no scenarios for what otherwise you contained in this individual have already been performing in your matchmaking life, you’re only gonna have to go along with your abdomen and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: okay?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we are going to place where make that clear, here we go. They are a 10, nonetheless they clap whenever the plane lands.
Drew
: i usually decided citizens were as well dramatic because of this, where it really is like they may be a 10 and therefore thing makes them head to a two, think about it.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m going to still give a pretty generous eight.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion which is reasonable. I think eight is the correct quantity of cringe removal for that little action. Fine, it is an excellent begin. Okay, they truly are a nine even so they never ever text you initially.
Drew
: and I also are unable to ask follow-up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: therefore i can’t ask, well perform they content myself when I text? I would personally state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting very first previously, that is crude.
Drew
: Actually ever is unusual.
Christina
: that is rough things. Fine, they might be a five even so they drive one to every errand that you’ve ever had to run.
Drew
: that is very nice, but i really could constantly⦠If there had been five, we’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you love an unicamente jaunt in any event, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:What i’m saying is nowadays my personal sweetheart Elise performed drive us to an errand, and I had been really thankful, in case that was the only thing she performed we mightn’t take an union, that has been only an additional little wonderful extra.
Christina
: i believe that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, they’re a seven nevertheless they merely pretend to see your projects.
Drew
: begin to see the aspect of that that bothers me personally will be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it could be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not reading it. If they failed to review could work it’s like, I’m not that, I’d be a little, it really is like never? But it is great, I could conquer it. Nonetheless they sit in my experience about this is really what’s strange for me, in order thatshould drop to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, appropriate, appropriate. They have been a three but they gain access to the criterion cabinet.
Drew
: And carry out I have you to get?
Christina
: and also you have accessibility, you reap the benefits of that accessibility, yes.
Drew
: I could have a good affair thereupon six.
Christina
: i believe you can. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what I’m stating, i am knocking it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They are an eight but all of their pals tend to be straight.
Drew
: Okay, there clearly was some discourse about this, because In my opinion there clearly was a needed help. I think We possibly was on opposite part on most of Autostraddle staff just who asserted that its good to only have direct friends. I would like to claim that it really is fine, it is simply perhaps not living I lead. All right buddies, that will visit a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i’ll need agree with you thereon one, i’d just think it is just a little troubling, complicated.
Drew
: All right buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are fresh to queerness as they are willing to meet more queer folks, that is distinct from if they’re an established season queer that is like, do you know what? I really like becoming the main one lesbian in my own friend band of directly folks.
Christina
: Yeah, i’d feel the same manner if it ended up being an Ebony individual that was like, “There isn’t any dark pals,” i’d end up like, “what are you doing there?” Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.
Christina
: you should not become token, you don’t need to do this to yourself. Okay, we have three more. They have been a seven nevertheless they spend all their particular free time at the gym, continuously weight lifting down and up. I am not sure what individuals would in the gym.
Drew
: all their time. I assume it all depends on which matters as leisure time. I’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump all of them down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: But that’s fine. I guess this will depend mainly in my situation, that I’m perhaps not asking a take question, i am following five, nonetheless it depends if you ask me what truly matters as time.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: Can we view movies collectively, or go out to consume, usually spare time? Is certainly not work time free time, or is it simply like whenever we lack other pursuits?
Christina
: I notice you, we listen to you.
Drew
: But we’ll stick with five.
Christina
: All right. They are six, but their mommy is actually hotter than these include.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to increase or down.
Christina
: i am aware, right?
Drew
: I don’t believe I could actually date somebody for their⦠its like if I’m not attracted to some one to start with, i am most likely not will be internet dating them.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: I’m not likely to be love, well, they might become their hot mother. In my opinion I would claim that they’re still a six, i am simply going to perhaps not call them and that I’m planning contact their own mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, personally i think want it’s as you stay similar, but possibly we hang out with you a tiny bit longer than I would personally to be able-
Drew
: that is good point.
Christina
: getting some mom time. I do not consider you transform.
Drew
: used to do something truly poor that we nevertheless feel severely when it comes to, which can be that someone requested me personally on, which had been as I was at school, and I wasn’t interested, therefore I ended up being clear about that, I happened to be obvious I happened to ben’t curious. However she wanted to be pals, and that I could tell that she mentioned she wished to be friends however it ended up being coming from spot-
Christina
: She ended up being wanting.
Drew
: Yeah. Although thing is each of the woman pals happened to be really hot and cool, therefore I did continued to be her friend so that you can spend time together with her pals. I did not lie about my personal objectives typically, nonetheless it however wasn’t the nicest thing I did so as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: What i’m saying is sadly it simply reminds myself of these bout of
Gender plus the City
where Carrie’s dating, i really believe its Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but his family members rocks, and she actually is like, I’m able to do that for a little. I’m like, yeah, completely, exactly who cannot.
Drew
: Carrie was not trying to get together together with his household, which is the difference, however you know what? It really is fine, we are all great.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like anything, i am always saying that.
Drew
: That’s a really great point.
Christina
: your own last any, is actually a three but has a coastline residence.
Drew
: I’m going to state a frustrating phrase, but I visited NYU.
Christina
: awful to say.
Drew
: something which sucks about me, which that is attending appear to be a modest boast, since it is actually most likely a good figure trait, but it sucks as you going through the globe. We decided to go to a school that’s filled with wealthy folks who have a number of awesome coastline houses, as well as these other items, and I merely became friends with others who had been indeed there on scholarships. Besides, but mainly, I absolutely, i did not make friends with others who’d coastline residences.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, therefore I think if they’re a three nonetheless have a beach home, they’re most likely a two. The simple fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you just can not make that jump to work well with the unwell coastline house moment.
Drew
: No, it sucks. But what I’m really wanting is my buddies who are rather down to earth, great people, more of these basically planning always have that brand new cash right after which get beach homes, and then i will be capable hang out with my great buddies and start to become at a beach residence. That’s the fantasy in which I could have the beach home.
Christina
: That’s the dream after a single day, its new cash and a beach residence, that is all we’re selecting. You heard it here first individuals.
Drew
: I adore new cash.
Christina
: Love new cash.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that was a delight. I’d really, I would truly already been wanting to perform that video game since it had been something on TikTok, thus thanks a lot for making my ambitions become a reality.
Christina
: I thought it might be a great one to perform, also it had been very fun to create all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to our very own major part associated with the week, which can be dropping for those who inhabit various other towns. Basically unique of long distance interactions, because long distance connections can start really into a relationship, they may be able keep on into a commitment, here is the need that queer individuals have to check out their particular location that they live and go, no, I’m not attending flirt by using these individuals, i will embark on instagram.com and locate someone who resides very a distance. And we also have actually a, i understand we always state a rather special guest, but also for me personally this is certainly a really unique guest. Want to introduce your self?
Elise
: i might want to present my self. Was we the unique guest?
Drew
: you happen to be, yes.
Christina
: child, obviously.
Elise
: Great, wow, remarkable. I’m Elise Bauman, i am a star, i am a queer individual, and I’m here now because I’m asleep with one of the hosts.
Christina
: Guess which?
Elise
: Yeah, the remainder podcast is simply the market trying decipher which number I’m asleep with. I like that, its like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there is strategy to know.
Elise
: there is no way to know. Yeah, does this create me a nepotism infant? Usually the way the industry really works.
Christina
: Yes, which is the way the industry works, babe.
Elise
: sweet, wonderful.
Christina
: this is certainly it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe I could get a career using this.
Christina
: fingertips entered obtainable.
Elise
: Nepo infant to career, wow, great. I’ve always wanted to end up being a nepo baby.
Christina
: i am very pleased.
Drew
: Yeah, I became only planning declare that for those who do not know, well now I am damaging the murder puzzle from it all, but Elise and I have been in a connection, and performed start dating throughout pandemic, and Elise resides in Toronto, and I are now living in L. A., which are in reality different places, and are usually in fact in numerous countries.
Elise
: they have been without a doubt, they’re undoubtedly.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply you went against your personal gut, but I do feel as though you might be typically an individual who states, why make use of a long distance minute? Discover folks below i will date, exactly why do this to yourself? You are aware it will be difficult, you know it will likely be a challenge, so why do this? But here you’re.
Drew
: See, that’s fascinating, because personally i think like i usually appreciated for a bit of both, I just believe i did not make long-distance ones perhaps because seriously.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always loved a lengthy range flirt.
Christina
: Genuine.
Drew
: i really believe this just stored going. Once we began-
Elise
: Therefore, the solution, Drew, wasn’t that I became only attractive and it ended up being personal if you ask me, and this ended up being extremely certain for me that I was only incredibly amazing and that means you just out of cash your entire rules and you also mentioned, “i must have this 1.”
Drew
: I mean its type of the clear answer in a longer good sense. In the sense so it just held going on. Immediately after which our very own good friends with the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, exactly who we always accept, as some of you may know, I would personally often be like, I would be trying to date folks throughout the pandemic in Los Angeles together with encompassing aspects of l . a .. And they would create fun of me because I would personally often just be want, “I mean, i possibly could merely make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I was constantly, “I mean, {this person|this i